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The golden rules to observe in the field of seduction
Okay, there is no magic formula, but there are techniques that have proven themselves. Each has its seductive little secrets, and his personal method to seduce. By analyzing these methods, it is possible to see that some items appear frequently. For example, the charisma, the look, taking a very important role in the seduction of today. The secret of a solid foundation! Lies in choosing a method, simple, easily applicable, which will allow you to rub the ground immediately.
Let's take a tour of her little things that make a difference in the actual seduction.
What are these important assets to seduce?
It is important to understand that seduction begins in itself.
Before the seduction
- There is the desire.
The desire that leads us to attract to find pleasure.
The seducer player that happens to him.
He knows what he wants and knows how to use it to happen.
Know what you want is just a first step toward trust.
Trust is the first thing that the seducer must demand of himself.
The seductive charm loves, he loves to please women and women love to please him.
In summary, know what you want, do not particularly sorry for that and realize it. If you are determined, it will be very difficult to stop.
I want a woman who accepts me as I am!
We want to almost everyone. At the same time, we expect the people that we frequent that they meet certain requirements and conscious or unconscious. And this is not necessarily physical demands, but they can also be intellectual, cultural, religious, character, or even what their attitude towards us (yes, for example would enjoy spending time with someone who did that would blame?).
In other words, just as some people are perhaps not your criteria, you yourself did not comply may not be those of such other person. Including the person of your dreams ...
From there, you have three options: reduce your requirements, count on luck to fall on someone compatible or increase your value.
The first two solutions are certainly the most used, having waited a long time the right person without success, you end up reducing your requirements.
The third option is probably the hardest because it requires to challenge and perseverance. Indeed, it does not play a role or lying Version "easy" This solution used by some, but usually fail in the medium term.
It is really improving. And there are plenty of opportunities to do so, as shown in the following propositions: Read a good book, eat better, interested in culture, drink less alcohol, playing sports, learning to better control , pay more attention to oneself, etc..
The fundamental
Some rules never forgotten.
1 - Do not be too nice.
When you understand that, you'll (almost) all inclusive. Kindness (or rather the excess of kindness) is the love-killer. Be a gentleman, but embodies never, never "THE LOSER" In a relationship, as in life, it is possible to be too considerate, too helpful and too sympathetic. If you are looking for a woman, or you already have one, being too nice can prevent you from having the relationship you really want. Women like gentlemen, but they do not respect the weak. So where are you? Here are some signs that you're too nice you find the answer.
- You are too friendly
In most social situations, good manners and respect for others will take you far. The woman who is in your life deserves your respect especially, but even if women like gentlemen, there are certain areas where you can be too respectful. We speak here specifically of what happens in the bedroom.
Being too friendly under the sheets is one of the signs that you're too nice. In private, women love men that are spontaneous, self-confident and have a taste for adventure. Your girlfriend or your wife does not expect you to be sensitive or hesitant. She wants passion. It may even possibly want bold words ... If you abandon your aspirations, neglect your interests and put your life friendly brackets just to focus all your energy into your relationship, it is likely that the latter is devoted to the failure. By giving up everything that makes you interesting and ultimately who you are, you kill the man who seduced her at first. Therefore, the excessive interest in you it is significant.
- You are too sympathetic
Being obtuse is more fashionable these days, tolerance and acceptance are the cardinal virtues of the modern era. That's great, but it may be too comprehensive, and is another sign that you're too nice.
It's a fact: even good people make dirty tricks from time to time. Trying to "understand" the perspective of someone else when you step on it, that's not being tolerant means being weak. Sometimes you need to respond to you. And more importantly, if your partner you see people walking on foot, she will also ... until you leave.
- Do not put women on a pedestal
It may be the eyes of Bambi, the plunging neckline as an Olympic diving, and legs longer than the scale of your father in the garden, it is only human, too human, which bites his nails, which can lie, manipulate. Whatever your inclination to project onto it all the qualities you want in finding the woman of your dreams, do not treat like a princess, let alone when you have not proven it was one.
- Learn to be silent
The popular belief is that the level of interest in the girl up when the man pours his heart and makes him share everything, until he stole candy from the bakery and the inferiority complex that he feels in presence are best friend now become doctor when it is prof. False and dangerous. In the long term, this kind of intimate confessions too separated, inexorably. Keep your secret garden, nothing forces you to empty it into a watering can as souvenir.
Personality
Humor, creativity, romance, intelligence four essential quality in the seduction Seduce with humor, do not limit yourself to your topics of conversation. Your personality is your primary asset, since the latter is also linked to your level of seduction. Above all, avoid the timidity, the goal here is to get noticed by your target. How you conduct yourself with your target, determine the result of your relationship.
Style
The way you dress is a very important point. A well-dressed attract much attention, and therefore necessarily women. Instead, a man who dresses to be discreet, and without complying with the dress code base, will go unnoticed. And even with an extravagant personality, it will be difficult to get noticed. The first impression is always the most important, then, made efforts! Remember that a well-dressed man is a man who trusts in him, and it shows!
The Means
This is not the only criterion of choice for women, but it is a detail that can help make the choice. So what does it show? Do not play the star with your target, do not spend all the money from your bank account for the impression, this is not necessarily a good thing for you. Find the right balance, you can provide glasses, buy a bottle club, but never your seduction are basing your money.
Power
In seduction, you must always show you at your best day. Face your target, it is better to be on silk (without exaggeration). That is the theory of "power" in seduction. You always seem to you to trust your meter target. Show your influential position yourself as someone strong "mentally" with whom one feels a sense of security.
These five statements are not assets that can be easily appropriated. For example, if you're not in a financial situation easier it will be very difficult to become just a woman. You have understood, together these six points is not an obligation. The most important being the easiest to acquire personality. Your way of being is your most important asset, since even without financial means or power whatsoever, your personality can be magnetizing and you get to many meetings.
The rules of success
Some rules to help you avoid setbacks.
To learn to apply these rules it will take time, effort and goodwill.
This rules are valid only in the attraction between man and woman, you can also apply in your relationships everyday (family, colleagues, ...), they have the same positive effect.
. Failures = experience
Even if you were Brad Pitt, your target can say 'no'. There are things that do not depend on you. Do not just have to please everyone.
Thus, failures can happen. But while failure is an opportunity to review your behavior and correcting errors in the future.
. Any contact with a woman makes me happy
This may seem obvious, but try to ask the question?
Does it makes me really happy to be with her?
Is what I am comfortable?
Do I feel stress?
If you answer yes to these questions, then you made a mistake somewhere.
. Improvise
Girls are attracted to those who know how to improvise and find a quick solution to any problem. Imagination is essential. Sometimes you use words 'already made' to start a conversation with time you will notice more than you use a particular technology, it will happen automatically.
- To highlight
Everyone can succeed, we all have qualities to develop, be it intelligence, sense of humor, strength, beauty ... Those who think that beauty is paramount are wrong, remember We Don Juan and Casanova, were they beautiful? No, they knew just how to treat women and how to use their qualities (and even their fault!) Maximum.
Hire an interesting conversation
Most men still begin the discussion of topics banal, even boring. Also, after referring to the extremely mild winter this year, it segues into what she does in life, if she has brothers and sisters and if she has already had a dog. In short, fascinating subjects for a moderator in a retirement home but not for the energetic and original than you are.
Instead of asking questions to which she has already had to answer a million times, talk with her about issues less predictable. For example, all have fun trying to guess the occupation of your neighbor, if the woman who is accompanying his wife or his mistress ... This technique is unstoppable. In addition to impersonate an expert in psychology (you are a keen observer of human nature), you show him that you know are funny and mostly original.
Another topic of conversation to attract the attention of a woman: the gossip about the lives of celebrities. Yes, we do not remake. If men like to know what a football player plays for which team, women love to find out which star was made for any other plated. Browse People magazine yesterday, and prime topics of conversation as: "Brad and Angelina splits. It's crazy right? " . And there you'll witness a moment of pure magic: shy, she will become a real chatterbox. And even if this conversation could you paste the headache of your life, it allows you to pass for a guy like no other, who likes her own subjects.
Do not whine about your fate!
The surest way to escape from a woman complaining all evening for your personal situation. Do not point out to him that you're tired of being single, that women have you ever dropped after two weeks and your job is so boring that you'll soon have you arrested for depression.
A woman is never attracted to a "loser." Remember, you're not at your psychologist.
This is for you to feel like a woman ... To be honest it is, is being too stupid ...
Make sure whether you drag it
How to flirt without insisting for a man? Simply giving the impression to your target as it is you drag!
How will you take to reverse the trend:
Throughout the visit, just be sure to read some of his actions as signs of drag. For example, if it raises lots of questions about you, tell her that her curiosity betrays the interest it has for you. However, be sure to always accompany your replica a touch of humor so it does not feel attacked. Questions "where you grew up? "" Where do you imagine in the next 10 years? "Answer him mischievously," I say. You are very curious. You would not try a little flirt with me? " .
For once, it will be done differently and that dredging it and it will charge him want to remind you to offer you a second appointment.
How a single misstep can disintegrate gestures previous 100
It is essential to avoid negative attitudes following when you talk to a woman you like:
It put too much value. You may provide your complex and beautiful to pass for a pretentious al'ego of Alain Delon (but not a career!).
Seek approval by completing each sentence with "is not it!" Or "you're okay?". These questions at the end of sentences you pose as a man who has little confidence in him. Systematically seek approval of a girl you do not at all attractive to him.
Abusing the "uh". Studies have shown that we consider those who speak well as people with little confidence and little bright!
It is a sign of nervousness. The reason we say "euuuh" is that we are afraid of being interrupted by another person. They glue the famous "euuuh" between our sentences. Instead, do not be afraid to pause! Pausing before delivering the important points of your speech, you seem more confident and people better remember what you say.
Talking too fast. Speaking hurriedly again gives the impression that you're nervous and not confident.
Too think before answering questions. This shows a lack of spontaneity and especially a fear of not pleasing. You're afraid of saying something stupid and did not have his approval. The woman feels and you lose points.
Too crossing your arms. This is a defensive gesture! Adopt a posture rather "open". Allow your arms to be relaxed and open.
Constantly touching your face or object. The nervous little gestures are worth avoiding. This indicates once again that you're nervous or uncomfortable.
Look down. Hold your head high, rather, have the air of confidence!
Accept all it offers! The next time you're with a woman, try to say "no" at times. Of course, do it always so delicate and relaxed, like:
· It: "Come on, we'll have a coffee"
· You: "No, stay a little longer, it's nice here. We will go in an hour. "
Some tips on conversation.
- Do not be afraid of silences. Enjoy it instead to watch the girl in the eye and show him that this silence does not bother you.
- If your phone rings, I advise you NOT to respond. At the maximum you can pick up and reply: "I'm busy, I'll call you later". There is NOTHING more annoying than a guy (or girl for that matter) remains a half-hour phone during the appointment.
- And finally, the most important: you must listen. The man does not necessarily lead the conversation, but he must know the lead. Listen well, show him that you're interested and ask for more.
- Do not swear as Chartier. In any case not before familiar. Say a few "bad words" is not prohibited. Do not just talk as if you had always promised to employ at least 3 curses to the second.
- Does not explain jokes that she does not laugh. Explain him that you think are stupid. She do not know yet and can not interpret your responses. If she does not laugh is that this is not funny.
- Do not spend your time to compare it to your ex (or worse your mother).
- Do not ever quote your ex or your mother to justify yourself.
- Do not talk to you in the third person, except to be humorous.
- Do not put yourself in the center of all subjects as if everything related to you.
The worst things not to tell a woman
Communication between a man and a woman is not obvious. Men are often the champions of the little awkward sentence that comes to kill the mood ... At the beginning of a relationship above all, a simple remark can push a woman to remove you permanently from the phone book .... So to avoid the word too early blunder that could ruin your efforts of seductive, here are seven points to avoid not only go ...
- You are much better than my ex!
Unless she asks you a question on this subject, do not compare their sexual performance to those of your ex ... even to say that everything is better with it. Make the ghost reappear your exs is in bad taste, especially if you enter details ... Sometimes it's better to prefer the unsaid.
- I love plump women like you
The best advice I can give you to keep peace and serenity in your life, avoid any comment on the weight! For women, weight is a taboo subject. Whatever the comment or compliment one does, a woman is scheduled to misinterpret. Avoid at all costs so the sentences full of good intentions like "you're really beautiful forms, automatically translated by" going to have you lose 2-3 kilos quickly my fat. "
- She is not married your girlfriend
One of her friends is great, blonde and features Charlize Theron? The slightest of smiles you cracked? This is not a problem at all ... as long as you keep it! To the question: "Do you think my girlfriend is prettier than me?" Always answer a non-religious (and if you think it is even better).
In any case, better a little lie that open war ... In fact, even as a joke or provocation, reveal your attraction to another woman, moreover a friend of your girlfriend is not a good idea. You might annoy the and to lose her confidence ... and you. Never forget that her friends are all accomplices as competing for it.
- I feel so much more alive since I stopped the coke
You have a heavy burden? You are not proud of some episodes of your life? Do not make the top shelf of a relationship. Although honesty and repentance are qualities, it is preferable to address sensitive subjects when the relationship is well established.
- It's crazy, my friends really do love you
You've submitted your new conquest to your friends or your family and they are not convinced, even begin to regret your ex ... Give them time to better understand and enjoy your new beautiful ... and especially do not tell your girlfriend reserves around you. It might doubt her own and trying to change his behavior to please them, which never works!
- I am afraid when I am alone in the dark
While women often say crack for sensitive men, they especially need a man who trusts in him. At the beginning of a relationship is better seen as a man he can rest. Keep your possible jealousy, your doubts, your fears for you, even to broach the subject when the relationship is more established.
- Can no longer see your friends until next year
Of course, you can not love all her friends. But his best friends for at least made an effort. Never lose sight of the friends of your girlfriend are part of his life for far longer than you. The criticism comes back to criticize it too. In all cases, except if she's starting to get his girlfriend, you better refrain from triggering hostilities ... And then level strategy, if you have friends in his pocket, they could well become your best Allied tougher times ...
Did men who shun women
Similarly there are certain types of men who are literally cracking the women, there are kinds of guys who are away ... We all more or less had love experiences and / or sexual abuse, also lived a story etc. ... All these factors mean that there are people that systematically avoids when to initiate a relationship with someone, there are types of people that fled to one reason or another. This is particularly true for the very beginning of a relationship, when the woman is in the process of observation and not let anything go to that could be his man.
If you recognize yourself in one of the genres develop, do not panic. The idea is not to change your personality but simply to avoid offending them even before he could get a second appointment. Here are some male attitudes that are most likely to cool women.
- The highly emotional man
The guy is emotional right now in affect. He shares with the girl's feelings, feelings, doubts and dreams. In short, it tends to mislead the couch and turns his appointment in psychological counseling. The guy probably much emotional, not sure of himself and constantly feels the need to be reassured, even the girl he tries to dredge. An attitude to banish, especially when we know that all women love men who have confidence in them ...
What women do not like:
Confidence and independence are masculine qualities that literally melt the fairer sex. The insecurity and emotional dependence are unlike kills love. Know indeed that women look for strong and reassuring guys who can comfort them in case of hard knocks. And because a woman is itself beset with uncertainties and doubts at the beginning of the relationship, you can not afford to give the impression of being like her ...
What to do if you tend to be what kind of man:
You are sensitive and this trait of your personality can be a high quality in time. That is to say all the time except at the beginning! Try not to share your uncertainties about life the first time you'll spend time with him. Put your sensitivity and be satisfied before you listen. It is certainly not change your personality, it is simply not immediately reveal certain traits of your personality. By cons, when things between you and her have changed, do not hesitate to share your world. At this point in the relationship, she will appreciate your sensitivity.
- The man expected
Women do not like that kind of man since they already know in advance what their reservation. A man with no surprise following a line marked out without ever leaving the road. The problem is that the route he chooses to take is known to everybody ... So long, faithful to his logic, it never comes to mind to surprise. To sum up, the man without surprise can easily pass for boring and bigoted.
What women do not like:
Women love to be surprised and surprise is often synonymous with romance in them. By choosing to be immediately predictable, you miss one of the most exciting stages of the relationship for a woman, when man chooses to dream by taking her lunch at the seaside on Saturday and deciding of bungee jumping with her on Sunday ...
What to do if you tend to be what kind of man:
Try showing a little original with your trip to a beautiful green, unusual restaurant, a boat ride ... In short, many things she has probably already made but which sound terribly romantic to her ear. The beginnings past (and have been able to show unpredictable as is the tradition of Women), the girl will have nothing against a return to tranquility. At this point you can talk your side who will likely benefit from the reassurance. However, try to occasionally adopt the carefree attitude of your early days in creating her surprise. One of the best ways to avoid falling into the humdrum of everyday life ...
- The arrogant man
The arrogant man has a huge ego and a tendency to adopt an air of superiority and arrogant. While adorable with that he tries to seduce, it may be rude towards people he considers inferior to him. Attitude that the grid start with women normally constituted.
What women do not like:
A woman looks at how often a man behaves with others to define who he really is. And even if you are the most attentive lovers with her, just being hateful with others you will pass for a man without a heart who does not deserve to win hers.
What to do if you tend to be what kind of man:
No woman wants to say it is with a guy who likes to belittle others. Especially that one day it might very well be it. Also, in his presence, put your ego to sleep and show you nice and pleasant with everyone you meet. Why? Simply because it will be watching you closely ...
- The miser
The stingy man calls his beautiful restaurant while avoiding to say in advance that it will take him FLUNCH ... He never takes the trouble to buy flowers (too afraid to ruin) and he still commands the cheapest wine on the map. From the first appointment, he felt the girl he saw on a limited budget and that spends the least cost him an arm.
What women do not like:
The first visit should always be unconcerned about the financial plan (are not asking you to take her dinner at a 3 star or to buy a Mercedes). The words "savings" and "budget" must remain taboo. No woman does indeed imagine spending the rest of his life to count every penny of his expenses, if any ...
What to do if you tend to be what kind of man:
Try to make some exceptions in your budget, especially during the first appointment. Between the MacDonalds and the Tour d'Argent, there are many very good restaurants and not so expensive. And a beautiful bouquet of flowers chosen by you can affect you even do not suspect ...
- The Hot Rabbit
The hot bunny drag other women in full tryst and being in the least discreet as possible. He heats the waitress and titillates the saleswoman while strolling with the one he tries to seduce. The class ...!
What women do not like:
Not only the behavior of hot rabbit is humiliating for a woman but it will also raise doubts herself. Basically, if you decide to jump on anything that moves while trying to please your "official" as you say you can not win ...
What to Do If You tend to be what kind of man:
It is necessary, even imperative that you stop to flirt with other women in her presence. Try to keep that attitude as long as possible and maybe this new behavior will become habit. Whatever happens, the guy who openly drag other women always runs the risk of being flatten, even after months of stable relationship ...
- The man on the defensive
This is the kind of man who turns every conversation into discussion. Il adore avoir des discussions sur tout et n’est jamais d’accord avec personne. Il aime argumenter et fait exprès d’être en désaccord avec vous, même si au fond, il partage votre opinion. Seulement, ce genre de comportement en face d’une fille qu’on veut séduire n’est pas l’idéal si l’on veut mettre toutes les chances de son côté. Quelle fille aime en effet voir sa « date » se transformer en débat politico sociétal ?
Ce que les femmes n’apprécient pas:
Un rendez-vous se doit d’être un moment agréable où l’homme comme la femme se montrent ouverts au dialogue. Aussi, si vous débattez de tout et adoptez une attitude défensive vous risquez de mettre votre belle mal à l’aise et surtout de lui faire passer un moment très désagréable. Et ce n’est pas le but…
Ce qu’il faut faire si vous avez tendance à être ce genre d´homme :
Relax! Gardez vos sujets de débat pour vos collègues et vos amis et ne les imposez pas à la femme que vous essayez de séduire, surtout aux débuts. Rongez votre frein et prenez sur vous. Une fois que la relation sera devenue plus sérieuse, vous pourrez vous permettre de redevenir l’homme argumentatif que vous savez être. Cette attitude, si elle ne devient pas systématique, aura l’avantage de vous faire passer pour un homme intelligent, qui a un avis sur tout et qui n’hésite pas à se poser des questions.
- L´homme moralisateur
L´homme qui fait la morale est extrêmement critique à l’égard des autres. Il ne fume pas, ne boit pas et ne semble pas avoir de vice apparent. Persuadé d’être « monsieur perfection », il n’hésite pas à condamner l’attitude de quiconque ne serait pas aussi irréprochable que lui. Lors du premier rendez-vous avec une femme, il ne se prive pas pour lui faire la morale si celle-ci ose commander un verre de vin ou choisir un dessert qui ne serait pas bio.
Ce que les femmes n’apprécient pas:
Personne n’aime être jugé, surtout lors d’un premier rendez-vous. Loin de la séduire, vous allez la mettre en colère et vous allez passer pour un parfait rabat-joie (la perfection a ce quelque chose de terriblement ennuyeux…).
Ce qu’il faut faire si vous avez tendance à être ce genre d´homme :
Gardez vos leçons de morale pour vous et abstenez vous de lui en faire. Important : mettez un point d’honneur à ne pas vous occuper de ce qu’elle boit ou choisit de manger en dessert. Les femmes sont extrêmement sensibles lorsqu’il s’agit de nourriture et une remarque désobligeante de votre part peut avoir des effets dévastateurs.
- Le misogyne
Le misogyne ne fait pas secret de son cynisme à l’égard des femmes. Lors d’un rendez-vous, il ne peut s’empêcher d’avoir des propos machistes sur toutes les femmes qu’il rencontre, même à l’égard de celle qu’il est en train de séduire.
Ce que les femmes n’apprécient pas:
C’est l’attitude la plus dévastateur de toutes celles que nous avons évoquées précédemment. Quelle femme accepterait de se faire rabaisser en public par un homme qui est censé la séduire ? Aucune…
Ce qu’il faut faire si vous avez tendance à être ce genre d´homme:
Vous devez impérativement repenser votre attitude si vous vous sentez proche du misogyne. Il n’y a pas d’autres solutions et ce conseil vaut pour toutes les phases de la relation et plus seulement pour les débuts. Se montrer misogyne reste le meilleur moyen pour faire voler en éclats les chances de plaire à une femme.
Comment appliquer ces principes ? Si vous voulez faire bonne impression lors des premiers rendez-vous, étudiez attentivement la liste et faites en sorte de minimiser les différentes attitudes négative qui font fuir les femmes.
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